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On Being Married

posted 5 Jan 2012, 01:47 by Sandra Kirby   [ updated 6 Jan 2012, 00:48 ]
 Greetings to you all
we are just in from seeing the Margaret Thatcher movie.  It was amazingly good performance by Meryl Streep and has left us with a bit more sympathy for Margaret the person than we might have had for her public figure.
One of the 
things that stood out in the movie, and was apparently an accurate reflection was the importance of her marriage to Denis.  They married in 1951 (his second marriage her first) and were together until Denis died in 2003 - so 52 years. Makes our 33 look paltry.
According to Wikipedia the longest recorded marriage is that of Herbert+Zelmyra Fisher who have been married for 85 years and last year set up a Twitter account for Valentine Day.  Looking at the site I would say someone did it for them and they have little interest in maintaining said account

I do like one of their tweets though.  In response to the question "Is it OK to fight" the response is
"NEVER physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree, & fight for what really matters. Learn to bend - not break!"
I would probably add and not hold a grudge
Apparently one of the oldest couples to divorce are an Italian couple who got divorced just before Christmas - he is 99 and she is 96.  He discovered some love letters from an affair she had in the 1940s and can't forgive her though he didn't know about it until now

I probably don't need to tell you that a healthy degree of argument has featured in our 33 years - but so far we have always made up:-)

Maria took this photo of us tonight at Curry Heaven with Marie.

Tony adds that in the 70's Sandra and I read a book called 'The Intimate Enemy' in which their research showed that couples who didn't argue had almost all separated within a year or so of the research....We obviously took that research seriously and made sure our relationship lasted!